The Transformative Nature of Grief
“I think I have had the wrong destination in mind.” These words have stayed with me for many years. They were spoken by a mom who trusted me with her story of profound loss, nine years after the death of…
“I think I have had the wrong destination in mind.” These words have stayed with me for many years. They were spoken by a mom who trusted me with her story of profound loss, nine years after the death of…
As I write, grief blankets Maui in the aftermath of the unimaginable devastation wrought by the August 8, 2023, fires in Lahaina and Upcountry Maui. I still cannot wrap my mind around the enormity of what transpired—thousands of residents have…
Often in our support group meetings, I have shared that one day our pain grows softer, and as I look around the circle of new or fairly new attendees, I see the looks of absolute disbelief on their faces. I…
The COVID virus gave us a new condition known as Long-haul COVID. Although the virus may be long gone, the person is left with persistent symptoms from the disease. These unlucky individuals are now being called “long-haulers.” Having just passed…
There was a time when grief lived mostly behind closed doors. News of a death traveled by phone calls, handwritten letters, and quiet conversations. Mourning happened in living rooms, places of worship, cemeteries, and support groups. Grief was shared with…
Someone once said that grief lacks a language. It is difficult to give words to this life altering, devasting, and complex experience. To further complicate things, many of the societal constructs for understanding grief do not adequately reflect the experience…
It isn’t just sadness and crying, although that is certainly part of it. It’s forgetfulness. Earlier I went to put the laundry in the dryer only to realize I had never turned the washing machine on. I’ve lost important paperwork,…
“Some people think they are in community, but they are only in proximity. True community requires commitment and openness. It is a willingness to extend yourself to encounter and know the other.” – M. Scott Peck Our TCF family spans…
It seems perfectly natural, doesn’t it? If you have a question, go look it up in a book. I’ve been doing it all my life. I was taught how to do research in school, and now it’s my first instinct….
How Do We Manage to Get Through Them Without Our Children? Holidays with our children were some of the greatest times of our lives. So much of our energy, time, and creativity was spent on planning and orchestrating experiences that…
