Page 32 - 2017 Autumn-Winter Issue
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An Update from the Director
of Chapter Services
by Terry Novy • Same sex parents,
(LGBQT) Lesbian,
Diversity ~ What Does It Mean to You? Gay, Bisexual,
Queer/Questioning,
When I Googled the definition of Diversity I found many Transgender/
definitions; I like this explanation: Transsexual
community
It means understanding that each individual is unique, and
recognizing our individual differences. These can be along. When you review this
the dimensions of race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, list, think about whether all bereaved family members, no
socio-economic status, age, physical abilities, religious beliefs, matter the situation, truly feel accepted when they attend
political beliefs, or other ideologies. your meetings. It is the Chapter leadership’s responsibility to
make everyone feel welcome.
What does Diversity mean to TCF?
The mission statement of The Compassionate Friends was • Work with the steering committee and discuss ways to
designed to describe the very inclusive nature of a very ensure your chapter in improving in diversity.
exclusive organization. What does this mean? A child,
sibling or grandchild must have died in order for family • Have Greeters at meetings to welcome everyone;
members to join, but there are no other special criteria that introduce new members and offer brochures that apply
must be met in order to be a member and attend meetings. to their situation.
Question: Is your Chapter being inclusive to all members • Make sure that Grandparents and Siblings are made
or are you exclusive and offer support within your comfort to feel welcome; their grief is different but equally
zone? All TCF Chapters must be 100% supportive to important.
all; remember Diversity starts at the Chapter level. The
following list should be reviewed twice a year to assure your • Familiarize the leadership team about different losses
Chapter is inclusive toward all persons: so they can be a good support system. It is important to
learn about causes of death such as homicide, suicide,
• Parents, siblings, grandparents substance related causes, etc. This increases sensitivity to
• Those who are newly bereaved, (1 day/week/years) the grievers and educate chapter members. It is imperative
• Those who are grieving a miscarriage or stillbirth that all members are supported and not judged.
• Those that are many years down the road, and have
• Plan programs where the members break into smaller
never grieved their loss groups to discuss a variety of topics that don’t apply to
• Parents who are senior citizens when their child died all. When the group unites share a small summary of
• Family members of various ethnicities, races, cultures your discussion to educate all members and help them
understand the need for understanding and acceptance.
and/or traditions For example: Tonight we shared about the importance of
• Adoptive/foster parents and stepparents not being judged because our loss is substance related.
• Those of various faiths or no religious faith
• Single and divorced • Having a male member of leadership begin the sharing
• Those grieving a child who died from stigmatized losses sessions is a great way of saying “Men are Welcome”. Plan
a “Men Only” sharing session or special get together; this
such as, but not limited to: AIDS, suicide, substance will allow all to be comfortable with their sharing.
related, homicide or mental illness
• Those who others may feel contributed to their child’s death • Open a meeting with a ritual such as reading the credo,
• Parents who have experienced multiple losses, have lost which is an effectively points out that TCF is inclusive.
all their children, or their only child The group looks to the members of leadership to set
• Men (in our society, men often struggle to express their the tone; remind the group that TCF supports parents,
emotions openly) grandparents and siblings regardless of their age, cause
of death, cultural or religious backgrounds.
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