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A Special Loss
Living with the Loss of a Special Needs Child
by David Hines
I do not believe there is any experience in life as traumatic It is indeed hard work to care for a special needs child. It
or life altering as the loss of a child. The loss of a special can consume every minute of every day and result in a life
needs child often brings a unique twist to this excruciating given only to the needs of that child. Every parent faced
experience. with this does what they can as they are capable physically
and emotionally. That child and its care becomes your life,
Those who have not been lucky enough (yes I said lucky in many cases quite literally. But those parents are rewarded.
enough) to have a special needs child in their life may not It is incredible to see the world through the eyes of one
understand the unique circumstances that are presented by of these children. My daughter was that child. Nobody or
such a situation. Most parents, despite themselves, when anything I have ever experienced in life taught me more
they learn they are to be parents start to dream about the than my daughter Erin did. No matter how hard my day
life of their new offspring. Nobody envisions their baby as was, coming home to Erin and her smile made everything
less then perfect, their child’s life as less then blessed. When right and the world brighter. I was able to marvel at small
parents learn their child has developmental issues, disorders things that because of her I realized were major experiences
that will equate to “special needs” all its life, they are thrown and great achievements that few others even noticed. The
into a state of grieving for both their child and themselves. world with Erin in it was brighter, happier, filled with hope
This is true for every parent whenever they learn this and offered more opportunity than we probably deserved.
news. It may be at birth or even in the womb, or later as That is the beauty of a special needs child. Others may
development lags or an injury or disease creates damage to see them as needing and taking but those of us fortunate
the brain or central nervous system. Most overcome this enough to live in their presence understand they are mostly
and begin to do the work needed to give their child the best giving. When these special people give they also give with
life possible.
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