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A shell of her former self, she is empty, and the act of going    wants joy; she wants to believe in joy again, allowing it into
on is too overwhelming to bear, so she sleeps. But sleep is       her heart without the fear that lingers so closely behind it.
just another ruse in the mysteries of grief, waking in a fog,
feeling happiness until the crash of reality sends you back to    For so long she has muddled through her life, forcing
the puddle you left behind earlier, back into the sorrow that     the faded smile to appear, broken and set to burst as she
echoes from the emptiness.                                        attempts to get through one more day. Unwrapping sad
                                                                  stories and heartbreak that go on unnoticed, with the tears
Using compassion to embrace this place of grief she begins        of what was, she has to learn to move forward.
her pursuit, seeking more love, true happiness and pure
joy. But joy does not just appear, it must be discovered,         I don’t remember how long it took or if there was a day
unearthed beneath the debris that sadness has dragged in,         that I started living again. I had fought against the current
blanketing the life she once knew, as it masks all the dreams     for so long, I did not notice when it changed directions.
she previously held.                                              I did not feel the embrace of joy when it first arrived, or
                                                                  the compassion around me when I let it in. It was a slow
This new beginning was hers to catch, the time to uncover the     melting of the iceberg, revealing a bitter taste of joy with its
obscurity and allow in the light. Exploring her motivation,       mixture of happiness and guilt, but it was a beginning.
she unravels the softness that she has cultivated through grief.
This kindness fills her heart, captivated by the beauty she had   While searching for a reason to go on after losing their five-year old
to be taught when stumbling through heartache.
                                                                  son Ryan, she discovered that giving back could actually save her. Tina
The prospect of joy continues to intrigue her, commanding
her attention to pursue the changes she needs to explore. She     Zarlenga is married with two children, sharing stories of inspiration

                                                                  and hope, as well as her journey through grief with emotional essays of

                                                                  life on her website Unraveling My Heart the Write Way, http://www.


Connect with Other Bereaved Parents, Grandparents, and

    Siblings Everyday on TCF’s Online Support Community

The Compassionate Friends offers “virtual Chapters” through an Online Support Community (live chats).
This program was established to encourage connecting and sharing among parents, grandparents, and
siblings (over the age of 18) grieving the death of a child. The rooms supply support, encouragement, and
friendship. The friendly atmosphere encourages conversation among friends; friends who understand the
emotions you’re experiencing. There are general bereavement sessions as well as more specific sessions:

Monday                         Tuesday                            Wednesday                      Thursday
9:00 - 10:00 AM EST            9:00 - 10:00 PM EST                9:00 - 10:00 PM EST            8:00 - 9:00 PM EST

Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  Bereaved Less than Two Years       Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  No Surviving Children
9:00 - 10:00 PM EST            9:00 - 10:00 PM EST                10:00 - 11:00 PM EST           9:00 - 10:00 PM EST
Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  Bereaved More than Two Years       Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  Parents/Grandparents/Siblings

Friday                         Saturday                           Sunday
10:00 - 11:00 AM EST           9:00 - 10:00 PM EST                8:00 - 9:00 PM EST

Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  Parents/Grandparents/Siblings      Survivors of Suicide
9:00 - 10:00 PM EST            10:00 - 11:00 PM EST               9:00 - 10:00 PM EST
Parents/Grandparents/Siblings  Parents/Grandparents/Siblings      Parents/Grandparents/Siblings
9:00 - 10:00 PM EST
Pregnancy/Infant Loss                                                                                                                      ©Arndt Vladimir/
10:00 - 11:00 PM EST


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