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December 13, 2020

Worldwide Candle Lighting Memorial Service

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The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting on the 2nd Sunday in December unites family and friends around the globe in lighting candles for one hour to honor the memories of the sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren who left too soon. As candles are lit on December 13th, 2020 at 7:00 pm local time, hundreds of thousands of people commemorate and honor the memory of all children gone too soon.

Now believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe, the annual Worldwide Candle Lighting (WCL), a gift to the bereavement community from The Compassionate Friends, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. TCF’s WCL started in the United States in 1997 as a small internet observance and has since swelled in numbers as word has spread throughout the world of the remembrance. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held, and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes, as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died and will never be forgotten.

Add a Candle Lighting Program

IMPORTANT: If you attempt to submit your candle lighting service and we do not contact you or your service is not listed within 48 hours, please contact kathiek@compassionatefriends.org.

Every year you are invited to post a message in the Remembrance Book which will be available, during the event, at TCF’s national website. The Remembrance Book will be open to post a message Tuesday, December 1st, through Monday, December 14th. Photos can be posted on our Worldwide Candle Lighting Facebook page.

The Compassionate Friends and allied organizations are joined by local bereavement groups, churches, funeral homes, hospitals, hospices, children’s gardens, schools, cemeteries, and community centers. Services have ranged in size from just a few people to nearly a thousand.

Click on your state below to view Worldwide Candle Lighting events in your area.

View International Countries Virtual Worldwide Candle Lighting
If you do not see a candle lighting program in your area, contact your local chapter to see if they are planning a program. Find a chapter.

New York

Bellerose

Bereavement Ministry of St. Gregory the Great and Our Lady of the Snows RC. Churches

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM
Location:

St. Gregory the Great RC Church
242-20 88 th Avenue
Bellerose, NY 11426

Highlights:

Prayer Service with music, readings, recitation of children’s names and lighting of candles.

Bring:

Wear a face covering.

Special Events (after):

Unfortunately, because of Covid restrictions this year, we are unable to offer hospitality and refreshments after the prayer service and candle-lighting.

Contact:
Catherine Crimmins
Telephone:
516 352-4202
Email:
crimdogs7@yahoo.com

Fort Plain

Catholic Daughters of the Americas and Our Lady of Hope Catholic Church

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:45 PM
Location:

Our Lady of Hope Catholic Church
15 Reid Street, Fort Plain, NY 13339

Highlights:

Speakers, readings, lighting unity candles, choral songs, reading of children’s names, Poems.

Bring:

Attendees are asked to bring pictures remembrances, their candles from previous years’ candle service programs, no refreshments due to covid restrictions.

Contact:
Doris Dutcher
Telephone:
518-993-4612
Additional:

Reservations appreciated by 12/4/2020

NYS

COPE

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM
Location:

Worldwide Candle Lighting Day – a virtual, online event

Date: Sunday, December 13th, 2020
Time: 7pm Eastern
Location: This year the event will be virtual and online – a secure Zoom link will be provided to registrants.

Kindly RSVP by the end of the day, December 12th:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/join-cope-for-worldwide-candle-lighting-day-december-13th-2020-registration-131772419855

Highlights:

Please RSVP today and join COPE for Worldwide Candle Lighting Day to honor the memories of the sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren who are never forgotten. Including reflections from COPE Founder and President Emerita Lilly Julien.

Bring:

We invite you to bring a candle (safely ready to light) and a picture of your loved one for the program.

Special Events (before):

Our program and the national candle lighting is at 7:00 pm Eastern.

Special Events (after):

If you would like to, please also bring any brief poem, quotation, line from a song or other words that are relevant to your loved one – these can be shared with the group if you wish.

Contact:
Adam Rabinovitch
Telephone:
516-832-2673
Email:
adam@copefoundation.org
Additional:

If you would like to provide a picture of your loved one for the dedication page on COPE’s website, please visit this link: http://www.copefoundation.org/gallery/children/ and email us at info@copefoundation.org

Olean

Noah Boser Children’s Memorial Committee

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM
Location:

Although we will not be meeting in person for our 19th Annual Local Ceremony for the Worldwide Candlighting event, we are asking for names, photos, etc. to compile in a posting/video which will be shared with participants to view at 7 p.m. on December 13 as candles are lite at home, to coincide with the Worldwide event. This will be provided as a local option for those unable to participate in A Compassionate Friend virtual event.

Highlights:

Due to the current Covid Situation, we will not be having a formal program.

Contact:
Kathy Boser
Email:
kboser53@yahoo.com

Albany

TCF Albany Harold Mitchell

Date & Time:
December 15, 2020 - 7:30 PM
Location:

Internet using Zoom – attendee’s email address required

Highlights:

Readings, live violin music, songs on CDs, speaking your child’s name, lighting a candle

Bring:

picture of your child, candle – real or electric

Special Events (after):

Sharing time after the candle lighting

Contact:
Kathleen Kelleher
Telephone:
5184391114
Email:
kathleen.kelleher17@gmail.com

Oneonta

TCF of the Oneonta Region

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:45 PM
Location:

N/A since our ceremony is virtual

Highlights:

The program includes a variety of music, poetry and personal stories. However, the focal point of the evening will be the candle lighting. This year, we are asking all participants to register online in advance of the ceremony by going to our website (www.tcfoneonta.org) for the registration link. After registering, each participant will receive an email with the Zoom link and password to join the ceremony.

Bring:

Even though the official ceremony begins at 7pm, participants are encouraged to join the meeting at 6:45 pm to solve any technical problems that crop up, and please have on hand a photo of your child, a small candle and a lighter. During the ceremony, each family will be given an opportunity to say a few words about their child, share the photo and light the candle in memory of their loved one.

Contact:
Kathryn Davino
Telephone:
607-746-7396
Email:
tcfoneonta@gmail.com

Central NY

The Compassionate Friends of Central NY

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:45PM
Location:

N/A

Highlights:

The program will include music and readings, with the focal point of the evening being the reading of loved one’s names and the candle lighting.
We are asking all participants to register by emailing tcfofcny@gmail.com, the names of Zoom attendees and your loved one’s name. You will then receive an email with the Zoom link and password to join the ceremony. Even though the official ceremony begins at 7:00PM, participants are encouraged to join the meeting at 6:45 to solve any technical issues that crop up. Please have on hand a photo of your loved one to share and a small candle to light during the ceremony.

Bring:

see above

Contact:
Susan Kimball
Telephone:
315-288-3789
Email:
tcfofcny@gmail.com
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