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December 13, 2020

Worldwide Candle Lighting Memorial Service

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The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting on the 2nd Sunday in December unites family and friends around the globe in lighting candles for one hour to honor the memories of the sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren who left too soon. As candles are lit on December 13th, 2020 at 7:00 pm local time, hundreds of thousands of people commemorate and honor the memory of all children gone too soon.

Now believed to be the largest mass candle lighting on the globe, the annual Worldwide Candle Lighting (WCL), a gift to the bereavement community from The Compassionate Friends, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. TCF’s WCL started in the United States in 1997 as a small internet observance and has since swelled in numbers as word has spread throughout the world of the remembrance. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held, and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes, as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died and will never be forgotten.

Add a Candle Lighting Program

IMPORTANT: If you attempt to submit your candle lighting service and we do not contact you or your service is not listed within 48 hours, please contact kathiek@compassionatefriends.org.

Every year you are invited to post a message in the Remembrance Book which will be available, during the event, at TCF’s national website. The Remembrance Book will be open to post a message Tuesday, December 1st, through Monday, December 14th. Photos can be posted on our Worldwide Candle Lighting Facebook page.

The Compassionate Friends and allied organizations are joined by local bereavement groups, churches, funeral homes, hospitals, hospices, children’s gardens, schools, cemeteries, and community centers. Services have ranged in size from just a few people to nearly a thousand.

Click on your state below to view Worldwide Candle Lighting events in your area.

View International Countries Virtual Worldwide Candle Lighting
If you do not see a candle lighting program in your area, contact your local chapter to see if they are planning a program. Find a chapter.

California

Walnut Creek

John Muir Health

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM
Location:

Virtual service using Zoom

Highlights:

We will have speakers, readings, music, a slideshow, and an opportunity to share your story.

Bring:

We are putting together a slide show to share during the ceremony. Send in your pictures, names, birth/death date and any other special information to be included in the slideshow by Nov 20th. Email any questions and slideshow information to Andrea.Starkel@johnmuirhealth.com.

Contact:
Andrea Starkel
Email:
Andrea.Starkel@johnmuirhealth.com
Additional:

This remembrance ceremony is for anyone who has been affected by the loss of a child. The loss may have occurred through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal period, and anytime throughout childhood. We welcome parents, family, and special friends. We look forward to celebrating the life of your child.

Please email Andrea.Starkel@johnmuirhealth.com for Zoom meeting ID and password.

Anaheim

Street Angels

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 5:30 PM
Location:

3010 Orange Ave
Anaheim, CA 92804. It is across the street from the hospital.

Highlights:

Will be giving Grief bags, music, memories by one voice. Heaven was needing a hero. Story of my life. Video of our angels and will say the name of child. When seen on video. Cupcakes for all angels birthdays.

Bring:

If you would like your child in video please send me 3 pictures of them alone with the name. I have to have them no later then Dec 5. If you would like to bring pictures of you child or children we will have tables to sit them on. There will be coffee, hot cocoa, snacks.

Special Events (before):

5:30pm – 6:00pm we will be giving out grief bags as will have healing kit, angel dolls, etc. to look at.

Special Events (after):

Angel moms and dads are welcome to stay after to talk with other angel moms and dads.

Contact:
Lynn Parker
Telephone:
661-899-6328
Email:
billlynn200614@gmail.com

Marin County/Sonoma County

TCF Marin County, California Chapter

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM CL Ceremony , 6:45 PM Zoom room opens
Location:

The virtual candle lighting via Zoom will provide time for each attendee to light a candle in honor of the child or young person, say their name, present their photo. Music and the memorial video presentation with the children’s pictures are included in the ceremony. Please visit tcfmarin.org website for Zoom link to join the candle lighting from PC, Mac, Linux, IOS, or Android.
If your child, grandchild, brother or sister’s photo is not already in the video, please send one to Radha Stern at radha-stern@msn.com by the extended time, December 1.

Contact:
Eileen
Telephone:
415-457-3123
Email:
tcfmarin@gmail.com

Walnut Creek

TCF of Contra Costa County

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:45-8:00 PM
Location:

Heather Farms Park, Community Center Club Room,
Walnut Creek, CA. Contra Costa County

Highlights:

We will share music, poems, and memories.

Bring:

If you have a favorite song or poem to share, we welcome your addition.

Special Events (before):

Please bring snacks and beverages just for your family as we will not be able to share this year because of COVID.

Contact:
Stella Scafidi
Telephone:
925 933-4843
Email:
markstellascafidi@gmail.com
Additional:

Dress warmly as we will be outside under a breezeway. Please wear a mask.

Sacramento

The Compassionate Friends of Sacramento Valley California

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:30 PM
Location:

This year we will be holding our annual candle lighting via Zoom. You will need to provide your own candle or two+ if you have multiple people who are with you and wanting to share at the same time. For information contact us at tcfsacvalley@gmail.com

Highlights:

There will be a video after everyone has lit their candle. After the video is over, we will quietly adjourn the meeting.

Bring:

If you’d like to share a photo or special item of your child’s when you light your candle, please have one ready.

Special Events (before):

Before 7 p.m. we will gather at 6:30 p.m. online so we can say hello and greet one another.

Contact:
Karen Meistas
Telephone:
916-997-0306
Email:
tcfsacvalley@gmail.com

San Diego

The Compassionate Friends San Diego Chapter

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:00 PM
Location:

Virtual

Highlights:

Reading of Credos, special readings, special music, slide presentation of our children, gone too soon, posting children’s name in chat box. After candle lighting a social hour sharing virtually time together online to socialize – having coffee or child’s fave dessert, or sharing child’s photo if not in slide presentation.

Contact:
Lisa Hohman
Telephone:
6192874253
Email:
us030424@cox.net
Additional:

Gary Hochstetler – contact person for website candle light information at www.sdtcf.org. or e-mail address gshoch@cox.net

Thousand Oaks

Ventura County Chapter of California, The Compassionate Friends

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 7:00 PM
Location:

Live Stream…Please go to the link at 6:50 PM there will be music and a countdown. Program will promptly at 7:00 PM. (prefer to go on 3-5 min prior). Our sacred evening will be Live Stream – Go to www.alcto.org – This will take you to Ascension Lutheran Church, Thousand Oak’s website. Look for Compassionate Friends Link, then click and you will start watching it Live Stream.

Highlights:

Bagpiper will begin our evening at Sunset at our Memorial Site, Key Note Speak – Stacia Sickle from Livingston/Hospice speaking of Grief in a Pandemic and Hope. Rabbi Richard Spiegel, speaking of sibling grief and support, Pianist and singer, playing “Precious Child” and Guitarist playing and singing Amazing Grace.

Bring:

This sacred evening will be in the comfort of your home. Please call me (805 579-7065 or 805 320-2302), no later than December 5th to have your child’s name read aloud. If you call me after Dec. 5th, your child’s name will still be read, just not in our program/handout.

Contact:
Janice Anderson
Telephone:
805 320-2302
Email:
gjanderson@sbcglobal.net
Additional:

December 12th, the hours of 12:30 to 3:30pm, you will be picking up your gift bag which includes a real votive candle and tapered, the program, and a little gift. Address you will be picking up is Ascension Lutheran Church, Thousand Oaks, is 1600 E. Hillcrest Dr. On December 13th, when you precious child’s name is read aloud live stream, you will light your candle. You will light your tapered candle when the guitarist Nancy Lee sings “Tonight I Hold This Candle.”

Burbank

Western Diocese/ InHisShoes

Date & Time:
December 13, 2020 - 6:45 PM
Location:

Western Diocese of the Armenian Church
3325 N. Glenoaks Blvd., Burbank, CA 91504

Highlights:

We will have a short program in the Cathedral (safe distance and mask respected), then light a candle and walk outdoor and stand with own families.
We will provide candles, say our Children’s name, share memories, poems. We will remember the fallen soldiers of the recent Artsakh/Armenia war…
We will be streaming live (respecting privacy)

Bring:

You are welcome to bring a picture of your child.

Special Events (after):

We will have sharing time and refreshments and desserts.

Contact:
Maria Hamparian
Telephone:
626-826-7833
Email:
forCathia@aol.com
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