My hope is that you will grow the strength needed to carry the burden of grief. I never thought I would ever hope again after Tony drowned. As time passed and I became better at carrying my grief. I became hopeful that I would continue to grow stronger, that the burden of grief would lessen, and that I would be able to live my life in a manner that would help others and make Tony proud.
Executive Director, The Compassionate Friends
My daughter Nina was one of the most optimistic and hopeful people you would ever have the good fortune to know. She found the good in people, and was known for her upbeat disposition and ever ready smile that lit up a room. Though impossible to think of anything hopeful after her devastating death to a drunk driver, over the years I eventually found renewed meaning in life through my involvement in and friendships made through TCF Chapter meetings and the annual national conferences. And I share the message that there is hope ahead with as many bereaved as I can. I feel Nina right by my side in all I do in that regard; she had so much to give that it saddens me she didn’t have more time to share her love and light with this world that so desperately needs it now. Our love is forever, Nina!
Director of Online Services, The Compassionate Friends
Chris was a St. Paul Police officer; he wanted to be one since he was four years old and never wavered from that dream. The day he got his badge was probably the happiest day of his life. After his stepsister Nina was killed by a drunk driver, his goal was to get the drunk drivers off the road so that no one else would suffer the pain that our family felt after her death. He always showed the drunk driver her picture hoping that, somewhat naively, they would think twice about drinking and driving. I think of his strong hope to make the world a better place, and that fuels me to do what I can to bring hope to our TCF bereaved families. Sadly, he took his own life five years ago due to PTSD as an undercover policeman. Miss you, Chris. And may we never lose hope!
Director of Online Services, The Compassionate Friends
My hope is that my daughter Sophia Ann will be remembered and live on through me. Sophia was born prematurely at 23 weeks, weighing 1lb 1oz – 10 1/2in , unfortunately after 9 hours of fighting we choose to remove her from ventilation. My hope is to help others going through this journey of grief so they know they are not alone. I felt extremely alone in my grief for the first 2 years I was looking down a dark tunnel and could not see an end. After my first Compassionate Friends meeting a small spark of light began to appear. I realized everything I was feeling (the bad, the worse, and the ugly) was normal. I hope I can be the one to help bring that little spark to someone else.
My hope is that my children are together forever. My son Jacque was just 17yrs when a repeat drunk driver hit his car head on killing him in December 1998. My daughter Nichole had Rett Syndrome she just turned 34 yearrs old and in October 2017 she passed away in my arms. I miss my children and I hope one day I will be able to laugh again.
Jacque’s and Nicole’s Mom
My hope is that our angels above are no longer suffering and watch over us everyday. This is for you Jake Ulrich 9/14/16 – forever 36. Love and Miss you sweet Son
My hope is that someone looking to end their life stumbles across a reason to live. To help someone else that wants to die, so that a mom like myself doesn’t have to live the rest if their life without the life of her child.
My hope for all who walk this road of grief is that they do so with the absolute knowledge that the love and bond we have with our children never dies. My daughter, Ella Reid Hill, passed away 7 years ago at the age of 17 months and 10 days old, from heart failure after brain surgery. She was born with a chromosome disorder, being the only recorded case of the arrangement she had. We didn’t know what to expect when she was born, and she suffered many medical complications throughout her life, but she brought a light and a joy with her into this world that I’ve never experienced before or since. She was absolute pure love, and it’s that love I carry with me daily as I walk this grief journey. You are not alone.
My hope is that I will see you again Tommy. We love you and miss you. We will never forget the kindness, humor and joy you brought to your family and friends. Save me a place beside you. All my love, Mom
My hope is that my darling little granddaughter, Mia’Lani O’Keefe will never be forgotten. Lani was born 14 weeks early, weighing 1 lb. 3 oz. Her life was as little as her, only 5 weeks. In her last hours of life, I gave her all the love that I could. As she took that last breath, I realized it wasn’t enough.
My hope is that everyone that is grieving the loss of a child finds comfort. My daughter Mariah was murdered 12 years ago when she was 20 months old. It doesn’t get easier with time, we just become numb. Always hold them in your hearts and cherish the memories.
My hope is that I will see my son Adam Eugene Goodwin again at heaven’s gate and we will be united together once again. Adam was a mama’s boy, he and I shared a special bond that can never be broken not even with death. Since God took him to heaven to be with him in November 2015 my heart has been severely broken never to be whole again until I see him again. If I did not have this great hope, I would not be able to continue on living in this terrible world. The road has been unbelievably difficult, but God helps me each and every step of the way. Rest in peace my angel boy in heaven until we meet again. Mama loves and misses you so much…
I discovered the Compassionate Friends in 1993 when my only child, my son Peter was killed while being driven home by a friend who had been drinking. When he died, I was left suddenly childless, and I lost all hope for even living. My expected future was obliterated and with it, hope for any kind of future ended as well. I felt isolated, alone and incapable of describing the darkness in my soul. I felt I had ended. At my first TCF meeting I discovered that hope still lives. I discovered my sense of loss wasn’t unique – I wasn’t alone. There were others suffering a similar pain and anguish. My feelings were validated and I began to learn the coping skills that have since carried me into a new life – with Peter as the center as I dedicate my time to assuring the future of The Compassionate Friends. My hope is that my compassionate friends and those yet to join us find the same hope in the future that I found. That our children are not forgotten, that we are the stewards of their memory, that as long as we live we can remind the world how important they are still – for it is our children, whether near or far, who have taught us what love is. And there is nothing more important or hopeful than that!
My hope is that my Beautiful Son Joshua and ALL our children will NEVER be forgotten. Our story is of the kindest hearted young man taken away from this earth way too soon, and our Hope is to keep his memory alive even after we are gone, through TCF network we can in his honor. Thank you just doesn’t seem like enough, but THANK YOU TCF.
My amazing, loving, son KJ, he was 16 (one month from being 17). KJ had a wonderful personality, a smile on his face, and determination. He had so much love for everyone. We will see him again in Heaven and we carry him in our hearts always. We LOVE KJ.
My hope is for all of us that has lost a child will get through each day knowing we will see them again. I hope my daughter ,Amy, is happy in heaven with all the other children waiting on us to come to them. Miss and love you Amy.
My hope is that when we see you again, we will have moved forward in our grief and lived our lives as best we could until we see you again. Losing our only child when he was 26 years old turned our lives and our world upside down. Struck down by a drunk driver before he had a chance to really live. He would be 41 yrs old this coming January 26th. How I mourn never getting to meet the man you would have become. How we miss the baby, boy, and man you were. We think of you many times each and every day. We love you son. We will see you again when it’s our time .
Love, mom and dad
My hope is My Hope is that others will turn to God to travel this journey and that God will use me to give others Hope. After losing our only child and son, James Ike Hubbard in August 2014 I truly believed I wouldn’t make it through another day without him nor did I want to. All I ever wanted was for our son to have and live the best life a child could and to know that our Dear Father was with him as he conquered life’s battles. Through the strength and love of God, I know he’s living it now. Never forgotten and tucked away in my heart until we are united together with you!
Pam and Ike Hubbard
Jamie’s Mom and Dad
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13
Tonight I will light a candle in memory of my nephew Dustin Johnson. There isn’t a day that goes by that we don’t think about you. Our love for you remains along with the memories. One day we will see you again. Love, your aunt Dorie
My hope is that my family and I can one day feel happy again. That we can smile and enjoy all the millions of great memories we hold so dear to our hearts without the tears of grief. In Memory Of Phillip “ Philly” Levato Jr whom was taken tragically from us all November 2016. May his kind heart, bright smile and Fun loving spirit guild us all through the rest of our life journey until We meet again. Not a minute goes by that your not in my thoughts. I miss you terribly my son. A huge part of me died with you. I try each day to get through it for your brother and sisters. I will always honor your name and your life. I love you and always will.
Phil Levato Sr.
My Beautiful son, Joshua, was lost to suicide August 2014. Only one month from turning 30 yrs old… My hope is that through perseverance and awareness that someday the stigma associated with suicide and mental illness will cease to exist. I hope I find a way to live again, without my Big Baby Boy. He was an Amazing baby, little boy, man, son, father, grandson, step-son, uncle, nephew, great-nephew, fiancee, and friend. He was just a wonderful person. His eyes ,always full of that magic sparkle that never failed to bring a smile to my face down to my heart. I miss him so, so much. I pray no mom ever has to walk this journey, but it seems to be becoming an epidemic. That brings me deep, deep sadness. He was my everything and will forever be… I love you Joshua Paul Oakley… Momma
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