As we move toward the end of September, it’s hard to believe that we have been experiencing life in a pandemic for over six months. Grief and loss are pervasive on multiple levels in our nation and in the world as we observe this half-year marker in time.
Some members of our TCF community have had a loved one die directly as a result of COVID-19. Others have experienced the death of a child, sibling or grandchild from other reasons during this restricted time. Many have experienced renewed pain from a devastating loss that is being particularly triggered by current events. Grief has been compounded due to the additional losses of jobs, finances, health, social interaction, safety, and security. For bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents, some painfully familiar feelings have resurfaced such as anger, sorrow, shock, denial, helplessness, worry, and intense anxiety.
When we can’t control outside events, what can we do to deal with the uncertainty and grief? There are many daily activities and actions that can make a difference in how we take care of ourselves and our families in order to manage through this time.
Spend time each day engaging in a few of these activities. It can be hard to motivate ourselves when we are more isolated at home, so prioritize them and post reminder notes to do them if needed. Basic care like adequate sleep, fresh air, a relaxing bath, nutritious foods, plenty of water, peaceful music, and quiet moments help us manage through grief and isolation. If your grief is aided by keeping busy, try a new skill or hobby, cook a new meal, do a puzzle, or pick up a new book.
As the weariness of the pandemic sets in further, just like the weariness we experience over time with deep grief, focus on one day at a time. Invest in yourself and in your family in simple ways that you may not have had time for before. Believe that there is something beyond this time in our lives that we cannot yet see that can be good again in a different way.
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