Invite your family and/or friends to do a mourning ritual with you.
Gather around a table with a candle in the center
After the candle is lit, everyone thinks about two things to share out loud with the rest
The first is a poignant memory to pour out of your heart
Or something that still worries you about the death
The second thing to think about and share is a happy memory about the one that died
Something that will always make you happy or laugh when you think about it
When everyone is ready with their two memories or thoughts to share
Take turns telling what they are
After everyone is finished talking
Decide on someone (or more than one) to blow out the candle
As the smoke begins to rise, read the following:
As the smoke rises from this candle, we celebrate ________________
Thank you for being a part of our memories.
We will carry you in our hearts as we go through this holiday season (or whatever the occasion)
You are a part of our family yesterday, today and forever
We love you
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